This is how to turn your relationship into marriage…

EUNICE ANSAH-AGYEMAN

HOW TO TURN YOUR RELATIONSHIP INTO MARRIAGE

 

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Finally, welcome to the concluding part of our discourse, How To Turn Your Relationship Into Marriage!

If you missed any of the exciting series, you can read them by clicking  on the links below:

How To Turn Your Relationship Into Marriage Part 1

How To Turn Your Relationship Into Marriage Part 2

And also:

How To Turn Your Relationship Into Marriage Part 3

How To Turn Your Relationship Into Marriage Part 4

Finally,

How To Turn Your Relationship Into Marriage Part 5

How To Turn Your Relationship Into Marriage Part 6

 

 

BRAINY

Alright, that about sums it all up nicely, right?

So, you’re in a relationship which is founded on love and strengthened by commitment as we defined earlier in the discourse. Meaning that basically, you’re headed for the altar. Now add all the salient points, attitudes, character traits and habitual nuances we have discussed, and you stand roughly about 80% of turning that relationship into marriage

Now, on a final note, there is one other thing I need to point out before we call it a wrap.

Being sensible!

Oh, yes, the two of you should always use calm heads to meander through the unforeseen storms! I mean, there is so much you can do, right? Sometimes, despite all that we have discussed, some issues crop up that require a sensible head to tackle!

Sometimes, for no apparent reason at all – a stubborn parent’s dislike of your partner, a clumsy church clause, a jealous ex who has surfaced, loss of a job – yes, a myriad of problems that could come up unexpectedly and offer a great challenge to move your relationship ahead.

That is when you two need to be sensible and tackle the problem from all angles like real soldiers!

 

It won’t be the time to get angry at each other and squabble. In such times, let love, trust and understanding reign by being sensible!

Like my mother will say: use your head!

So that’s it!

I wish you the best of luck as you turn your relationship into a marriage.

But then, we come to the other aspect of my presentation which, unfortunately, is not for all of you.

As the popular cliché goes, if you know, you know.

So we now look at something very shortly, something that is 100% guaranteed to turn your relationship into marriage or give you great peace of mind to move on and live in happiness if that doesn’t happen. As I said, it is not for all of you, but in a way, it is for all of you!

Though it is just a teeny weeny bit special and hard, but hey, we seek the ultimate happiness, don’t we?

So, if you’re ready, here it is…

The second thing we listed:

What you can’t do!

 

 

KNEES DOWN

So far, we have talked about things you can do, and practical steps you can take to ensure that your relationship ends in marriage. We have seen that with love and commitment, and focused application of a set of principles, you can turn your relationship into a marriage.

However, it just wouldn’t work out no matter how hard you try despite all that, and your poor heart gets broken over and again, so much that you lose hope for love and marriage!

I’ve heard some women saying they’ve given themselves up to a certain age to get married, and if it doesn’t happen they are just going to take any man – married or otherwise – and get pregnant, give birth and raise their children.

In a way, they are saying to hell with marriage, and they are only interested in having children.

And of course, there are more and more disillusioned men and women who no longer believe in love and commitment. To them, they’ll accept good qualities in a partner and settle down, then hope for love to grow. I’ve seen people meeting, liking their qualities and getting married just about three months of knowing each other!

Will that make for a good marriage?

 

Now, giving up and having children…will that really make you happy?

Is it worthwhile to marry a total stranger?

Well, there is one source where you can indeed be happy by marrying a total stranger because an extraordinary thing can happen: love can be created between you in the blink of an eye!

There is a source where marriage can just happen by the snap of a finger!

There is a source where you can have that exhilarating experience of fulfillment and love in an instant, or over a length of time.

Well, in that place time wouldn’t be of essence to you. Basically, you will be waiting, but you will be waiting with inner peace and happiness, waiting for the ultimate.

Interested?

 

Wow, yes, just that there is a catch, yes, a small price to pay…

And that price is living a holy life!

Hold on, don’t shush and turn away!

Maybe you’ve been in five, six, ten relationships already – sexual relationships, to be exact!

And nothing has happened!

What about giving that up, and finding real hope of getting married?

Yes, indeed, you leave it all in the hands of a wonderful, wonderful God!

Look, trust me, okay, it works!

 

So stay with me just a few minutes longer, and we’ll peg this thing down in a wonderful way you’ve probably not been told before.

Let me give you a little bit more insight!

The deal is that there is a God who knows how lonely it is to be without a life partner and children. Yes, he does. I’m not really going to bore you with any long talk or preaching on the subject, but the cutting edge is that yes, God knows how lonely and painful being alone is, especially in your advanced age.

Just one Bible verse for you, in Genesis 2:18 which says, among other things, ‘And God said, it is not good for the Man to be alone…I will make him a companion.’

Boom!

 

Right there God nailed down the importance of companionship, marriage, and family.

Now juxtapose that with Isaiah 4:1 which gives quite a gloomy look at things in the future. It states that a day is coming when seven women would beg one man to let them carry his name to take away their shame and that they would not expect any financial benefits from him.

Wow!

Quite staggering, isn’t it? I know a lot of guys misuse this quotation and mess around with the hearts of innocent women, but hey, that’s how the cookie crumbles. So, roughly, the ratio of women to men would eventually hit 7:1.

Our final verse is Psalm 37:4 which states that if you delight yourself in the ways of God, He will definitely give you the desires of your heart!

So we’ve nailed it down, haven’t we?

From the three verses so far, we have this scenario:

 

1. God knows how painful it is to be alone
2. Finding a good partner has become very hard and competitive, especially for women
3. Sometimes it feels burdensome, lonely and even shameful to be alone at a certain age
4. If you trust God, and live by His ways, and please Him, He will definitely fulfill all your heart’s desires.

 

So that’s it, the final winning formula!

Although finding a good partner can be hard and burdensome, God can give you the perfect match that will ensure your permanent happiness if, and only if, you’re prepared to live by different set of standards from what you probably might be living now!

It means giving up on a whole lot of things, chief among which are:

• Accepting Christ as your Messiah
• Getting baptized
• Giving up on premarital sex!
• Living a clean, spiritual life in God!

 

Yes, you’re there!

That takes this whole topsy-turvy matter of life partners out of your hands and placing them in the secure hands of a wonderful God.

Word of caution though:

If you become a Christian simply because you want a life partner, hey, it is probably going to backfire!

Secondly, it is not automatic, no! You might not get hitched if that’s God’s plan for you…but, and this is a really gigantic BUT, once you find joy in the Lord, being single will cease to be a disgrace or an albatross around your neck.

You are probably asking why.

 

Well, the answer is simple really. You see, God will simply take the pain out of your heart and replace it with a constant bubble of joy, because you will see the bigger picture, as they say, and your joy and happiness will be complete!

Well, so basically, that’s it.

I hope this article has been useful to you.

Drop me a line, though. Let me know what you think. Something to add, something you wanna know…let me get your feedback.

Is there a different related topic you want to read about? Drop them in the comment box and let’s take it from there.

 

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