This is how to turn your relationship into marriage…
EUNICE ANSAH-AGYEMAN
HOW TO TURN YOUR RELATIONSHIP INTO MARRIAGE
PART 1
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I saw a tweet recently on a friend’s status which went something like this:
In 2019 there is no dumping me if you date me! I’m too old for that kind of sh*t. If your love runs out, we’ll survive on mine…I’ll hotspot you.
I found it very hilarious at first, but on second thoughts it struck me as something really serious!
I began looking at it from a different perspective.
You know, although my friend was just retweeting something she saw on somebody’s Twitter page, I knew she was recovering from a very painful breakup. She had spent more than eight years with her last boyfriend and had eventually decided to move on because she saw no future in the relationship.
Sadly, this is not an abstract scenario, no!
I know young people who sacrificed time, energy, friendship, and their bodies just to commit to relationships that eventually didn’t work out.
Some spent years – ten, eight, five – just to make their relationships work, but they always fizzled out.
Maybe you’ve moved from one relationship to another, one sexual partner to the next, hoping and praying for that eventual proposal and the blissful marriage…but to no avail.
Your relationships collapse time and again, and your heart keeps on getting broken!
Maybe you see some of your friends dating for less than five months and getting married, and you’re beginning to wonder what is going on in your life! You wonder why your friends seem so lucky in love…and marriage!
And you feel so depressed and down all the time because your relationships are not panning out…you seem to jump from one painful love to the next in a never-ending spiral of torture!
And then there is the age factor!
Age is creeping up on you!
You need to settle down and raise a family because, very soon, you might hit that age bracket where you might be considered ‘too old for marriage’ as the cliché goes.
I know women who have taken extreme decisions and given themselves a time frame for marriage. They say that when that age limit is hit, and there is no marriage, they would then go in for a man – married or not – and have children without marriage!
Whew!
A bit drastic, don’t you think?
But that is, unfortunately, the reality we are facing now!
More relationships are being broken off more than they end up in marriage!
Why?
- Why is there so much pain in your life, so much bitterness, so many heartbreaks?
- And why do your relationships keep ending disastrously and with such pain?
- Why can’t your partners just commit and take you to the altar?
- Why, in the name of God, why?
- Is there something you’re not doing right?
- Are your friends better than you?
There are pain and frustration in your heart, and you’re just about deciding to move on with your life as a single lady, or man.
After all, as the cliché goes, there are more women than men, yep, and going from that angle, not every woman is meant to marry.
So maybe you’ve resigned yourself to the life of the ‘side-chick’ or the perpetual spinster.
Well, that’s really tough, isn’t it?
In spite of that cliché, people are getting married!
So why not you, huh? Why the hell not you too?
Maybe, just maybe, this article is meant for you and could help turn your current relationship into a marriage.
Heads up, though…this is not a magic wand you would wave and bingo, the pastor would pronounce you man and wife.
It is just a word of advice, yeah, something like that, to shine a different kind of light on your relationship journey, and hopefully land you where you most desire to be…in a blissful marriage!
Let us try and explore some of the most salient pointers, okay, and put things into perspective.
And then, maybe, we will reach that summit.
So you’re in a new relationship after having had your heart broken on a number of occasions and you’re basically just waiting to see how this new one will pan out, and you keep wondering if this one will be THE ONE, or will also end up being crashed on hard rocks.
Well, cool.
I know many young people out there whose outlook on relationships boils down to:
“Don’t fall in love, but stand in love so that if it doesn’t work out, you can flee.”
This outlook, whilst funny in a way, also makes me sad somehow.
It hints at a heart that has been broken so many times – or broken up so badly – that it has lost faith in love, and the happiness to be garnered from real love.
So the questions still remain:
How do I turn my relationship into marriage?
Will this relationship also end in heartbreak and pain?
Yes, you can turn your relationship into marriage, and we are going to talk about it now!
With the premise and surmise out of the way, let us delve into that area!
Stay with us for Part 2 and learn a few basic and wonderful approaches to turn your relationship into marriage!
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